an excerpt from a reading at a wedding my friend Rachel went to recently (and she so graciously sent to me because she knows me well and knew I would love it - thanks Rachel!!)
~ By Anne Morrow Lindbergh ~
The only real security is not in owning or possessing, not in demanding or expecting, not in hoping, even. Security in a relationship lies neither in looking back to what was in nostalgia, nor forward to what it might be in dread or anticipation, but living in the present relationship and accepting it as it is now. Relationships must be like islands, one must accept them for what they are here and now, within their limits - islands, surrounded and interrupted by the sea, and continually visited and abandoned by the tides.